Four Emotions Evoked While Walking Along Japan’s Oldest Road

Tranquility, Nostalgia, Dispair, and Hope

  1. Yamanobe no Michi – photo by Author

After visiting Omiwa Shrine with my mother, Yuri-san and I parted from her and headed north along Yamanobe no Michi 山辺の道. 

Stretching north and south on the foothills of Mt. Miwa, Yamanobe no Michi is known as one of the oldest roads in Japan. Both Kojiki 古事記 and Nihonshoki 日本書紀, Japan’s oldest written documents, mention this ancient road.  Japan’s oldest road passing by Omiwa Shrine 大神神社, Japan’s oldest shrine… That pairs well.

While walking about 6 miles along this ancient road from Omiwa Shrine to Tenri Station, different emotions evoked.

Tranquility

Yamanobe no michi – photo by Author

The path just off of Omiwa Jinja was unpaved, too narrow for a car to drive through.  Tall trees stood on both sides for a while.  Then the left side of the path became a little more open.  But the path remained too narrow for a car. Yuri-san, who had walked this path before, led the way.   

I was surprised by the quietness.  What a difference it makes if there is no car passing by us!  I heard birds chirping and tree branches swinging to the breeze.  I heard a subtle sound my shoes made when making each step.  These sounds were much gentler and more soothing than the noise of the car engine.  In order to gain convenience, what have we lost from our daily lives?

Nostalgia

Stone monument of a poem by Kakinoueno Hitomaro – photo by Author

Here and there alongside the road were stone monuments with a poem and the name of the person who wrote it, engraved on the stone. Many poems were written by Kakinomotono Hitomaro柿本人麻呂.  I found one written by Takechino Miko 高市皇子.  Both names appear in Man’yōshū 万葉集, Japan’s oldest collection of Japanese poems.   

After over 1400 years, I was stepping on the same road, looking at the same mountain, admiring the same beauty as these ancient poets did. 

Monument of Matsuo Basho’s poem – photo by Author

Walking a little further, I found another stone monument with a poem.  The name appeared as Munefusa 宗房, who is that?  The wooden plaque that stood next to the stone monument stated that it was Matsuo Basho 松尾芭蕉 (1644 – 1694)’s another name when he was younger.   Ah, even a master haiku poet in the 17th century paid a visit to honor their ancient predecessors. 

Honor system stand selling produce and sweets – photo by Author

Yamanobe no Michi mainly runs through the farmland.  Although we didn’t see people around, we thanked their kind heart for leaving their produce and goodies they had made.  A piece of mochi or rice cake for only 100 yen!  Such an honor system seemed to remain the norm around here.  Something that modern city life has long forgotten.

Dispair

The front gate of an abandoned house – photo by Author

The houses along the road were mainly old-looking.  Single-story farm houses surrounded by board fences.  Houses with a large front yard, with branches of pine, persimmon, or cherry trees hanging over the fences.  These houses resembled those that once stood in my parents’ hometown in Tokushima 50 years ago.  Perhaps similar houses also used to fill the cities, but are rarely seen nowadays.

Looking closer, I noticed the front yard of many houses looked unattended.  Windows were half open or broken.  There was no sign of anybody living there anymore.    I may be exaggerating, but at least a quarter of the houses in the neighborhood seemed abandoned.

When you are in the middle of Tokyo, you can’t believe that Japan is losing its people.  The depopulation of Japan, however, looks so real when you visit a countryside like this. 

Signage on the tree – photo by Author

Along the road was also what used to be farmland, now abandoned.  To whom does this land belong?  To the family of that house, now nobody live?

The sign attached to a half-dead tree says, “Volunteers of Nakayama Town are maintaining the abandoned Satoyama 里山 woodland.  Please tell us any idea how to make use of the bamboo trees that are cut down to clear the land.”

What is Satoyama?  Below is an excerpt from Japan’s Ministry of Environment website.

“Satoyama are usually located in the rural areas of Japan where agriculture, forestry and fisheries are the main industries. They are known as socio ecological production landscapes and seascapes, SEPLS in short. They consist of production ecosystems like secondary forests, farmlands, irrigation ponds, and grasslands as well as human settlements.

They are created by human activities to produce food and fuels, but eventually become irreplaceable habitats for a range of fauna and flora. Moreover, Satoyama serve multidimensional functions, in a broader context, including national land conservation and headwater conservation, while providing places for healing or leisure and inspiring the creation of art and literature.

Those ecosystem services from Satoyama, including necessary resources, safety and comfort, are co-created by both nature and continued human interventions.

Therefore, it is crucial to sonserve their biodiversity as they are inseparable from human activities.”

In abandoned Satoyama, invasive bamboo trees become the threat to its biodiversity.  Hats off to the volunteers of Nakayama Town for their laborious efforts to eliminate the bamboo trees.  Have they found a good solution to utilize the bamboo?

Hope

Cofnia – photo by Author

We stopped by at what looked like a café.  Unfortunately it was not open, but the shopkeeper came out and explained about the building. 

A young woman acquired an old house by the road that had been unoccupied for more than ten years.  She raised over 5 mil. yen through and by collaborating with various organizations, resurrected the abandoned house as an inn, called Cofunia.

Rapeseed flowers – photo by Author

We came across a vast flower bed, full of bright yellow rapeseed flowers.  An old man just came out of the vegetable field on the opposite side of the road.  “Do you also grow these flowers?” I asked him. 

“No,” he said.  “This land belongs to Tenri High School.” 

“When the school bought this farmland, their initial plan was to convert it to an athletic field.  But the land is sloped, as you can see.  If the land were flattened, the neighboring fields would become unstable.  So the school changed its plan.  They decided to keep the farmland and have their students maintain it.”

“The students grow vegetables on lower two-thirds of the land.  The top one-third, where it stretches along the Yamanobe no Michi, is used as a flower garden.  Here Seasonal flowers bloom all year round, so that whoever hikes on this road can enjoy the beauty of the flowers.”

The unique inn and the beautiful flower bed… Both are initiated by young people in Japan.  I felt a sliver of hope.

The Oldest Shrine in Japan Worships The Holy Mountain

No, it’s not Mt. Fuji

People usually call Omiwa Shrine (大神神社)Miwa-san, as if it were their close friend.  It is said to be the oldest shrine in Japan.

My mother is proud to have been visiting Miwa-san every first day of the month in the last 20 years or so. Rain or shine, she never misses leaving home before 9 in the morning, taking trains and a shuttle bus for a little over an hour, and passing through this torii gate once a month.   For her, who easily gets bored with everything else, it is an amazing accomplishment.  Do you see a little figure, the third from the left, carrying a large black backpack in this photo?  That’s my mother.

Once in a while, I happen to be in Japan on the first day of the month.  This spring was such a lucky occasion.  I was staying in Kyoto for a few days, so was my friend Yuri-san.  She also lives in Seattle, but happened to be visiting her family in Kyoto.  Let’s get together in Kyoto and go somewhere on April 1st.  Oh! April 1st!  How about going to Miwa-san with my mother? Was my suggestion.

Yuri-san agreed.  “How auspicious to visit a shrine that worships snakes in the year of the snake!” Thanks to her, I learned something new. She also suggested that we hike the Yamanobe no Michi 山辺の道after visiting Miwa-san.  I agreed.


Yuri-san and I met at the entrance to the Kintetsu line of Kyoto Station.    The JR line side, especially the entrance to the Shinkansen (bullet train), was jam-packed mainly with foreign tourists.  Luckily, the Kintetsu line side was far less crowded.  There were hardly any people in the limited express train that we got in, leaving Kyoto Station at 9:10 am, bound for Kashikojima.

We changed trains at Yamato Saidaiji and got off the train at Sakurai Station.  My mother, coming from Osaka, also on the Kintetsu line, was waiting for us at the exit.  A little relief that three of us got together with no hickup.       

On foot, it takes at least 30 minutes from Sakurai Station to Miwa-san. On the first day of every month, however, a shuttle bus runs between Sakurai Station and the foot of Miwa-san to accommodate the monthly regulars like my mother.  Yuri-san and I piggybacked on that service, and the three of us got on the shuttle bus.        

The bus went through a narrow road and arrived at Miwa Ebisu Shrine, a tiny sub-shrine of Miwa-san, where everyone got off.  Cute camelia flowers were blooming on the hedges to welcome us. 

Camelia flowers – photo by Author

Along the pathway from this sub-shrine to the main gate of Miwa-san, many stalls were lined up, selling local produce and freshly cooked goodies.  Yuri-san and I were tempted to stop at each stall.   Knowing the way around and also on her mission to complete her route before noon, my motherl led the way.  She didn’t give us little time to meander and look around. 

We arrived at the large torii gate. 

My mother bowed down deeply in front of the gate.  “You are not supposed to go through the gate in the middle.  Stay on the right or left side when you go through under it.” If I had asked her why,  she would have replied, “Because I was told to do so.” To her, it was a good enough reason.  I simply followed her.

Sando参道 of Miwa-san – photo by Author

Beyond the torii gate was a long, straight gravel pathway, sandwiched with rows of tall trees and lanterns.  Each lantern had the name of the people or the company that donated it.  More people were walking toward the main shrine than walking back this way.  It was still in the morning.

Even to a soul that doesn’t believe in any god, some sense of awe, humility, or purification should come up by walking along under this lush green.  Not a single trash on the gravel road.  Defused by he leaves and branches, the sunlight, however harsh it may be, softens by the time it reaches you.  The air is crisp, and you notice you are breathing deeper than usual.  It’s worth visiting any big shrine only to experience this magical feeling.    

Snake shaped faucet – photo by Author

It is customary to clean your hands and mouth with water before visiting the main shrine.  No exception here at Miwa-san.   What is unique is that the shape of the faucet is a snake.  What is the relationship between Miwa-san and a snake?

Miwa-san enshrines the god Omononushi no Okami 大物主大神. In both Kojiki古事記 and Nihon Shoki日本書紀, the two oldest books of Japanese history & mythology, a snake is depicted as one of this god’s incarnations. 

According to Miwa-san’s official website:

“During the reign of Emperor Sujin, there was a princess named Yamatototobimomosohime who served as a shrine maiden, conveying the will of the gods and helping the emperor with his affairs.

This princess was to become the wife of Omononushi no Okami, but he would only visit her at night. She asked him if she could see his face. Okami thought this was a reasonable request and granted her request. He told her that he was in a box containing her comb, but never to be surprised by opening it.

Suspicious, the princess opened the box the next morning to find a small snake inside, which made her scream in shock. The god instantly transformed from a snake into a beautiful man and reproached her for breaking her promise. He then flew into the sky and returned to Mount Miwa, saying she would never see him again. The princess then regretted her actions and stabbed herself in the vagina with chopsticks, losing her life. For this reason, Momosohime’s grave came to be known as Hashihaka (Hashihaka Tomb). This sad story about Hashihaka, located at the foot of Mount Miwa, is recorded in the Nihon Shoki.”

A rather sad and scary story. 


The Haiden of Miwa-san – photo by Author

On top of the steps is the haiden 拝殿, the worship hall.  The monthly ritual had already started when we got there.  Gagaku music was playing, with many people listening to it both inside and outside the building.

Another uniqueness of Miwa-san is that there is no honden 本殿, the main hall, that would normally exist beyond the haiden. 

Usually, a certain object of worship is housed in the honden.  For Miwa-san, however, the object of worship is the mountain itself.   We bow down in front of the haiden to pay respect to this holy mountain, Mount Miwa, which stands behind the haiden.

Mount Miwa from the observation deck – photo by Author

Mount Miwa is not visible from the front of the haiden.  If you walk up to the observation deck, you can see it through the tree branches.  On the day I visited, the cherry blossoms were in full bloom, decorating the graceful figure of the holy mountain.


One of my mother’s never-to-miss spots in Miwa-san is Kusuriido 薬井戸, where you can get holy water that would cure any illness.  In her backpack she had six empty half-a-litter PET bottles.  She would fill all the bottles with this holy water, carry them back to Osaka, and give three to her niece and keep three for herself.  Is it this holy water, or the fact that she carries the water back home every month, that keeps her healthy?  In either case, I have no complaints.

While my mother went rushing to the well, I was walking at my own pace along the passage leading to the well.  On the left side of the passage, there was a pond, and I found a rather new stone monument.  Intreagued, I went up closer.

Stone monument of Mishiya Yukio’s handwriing – photo of Author

清明(seimei)- 三島由紀夫 (Mishima Yukio)… That famous author Mishima Yukio?  Why is it here?

Another plaque by the monument explained why.   

Plaque – photo by Author

(My translation)

“In his novel Runaway Horses (奔馬, Honba), the second in his Sea of Fertility tetralogy. Mishima Yukio depicted the faith in holy Mount Miwa and the religious rituals of Omiwa Shrine as the novel’s central theme.

To study ancient Shintoism, Mishima attended the Saikusa Festival of Isagawa Shrine (Omiwa Shrine’s sub shrine) in June, 1966.  Mishima visited Omiwa Shrine again with Donald Keene on August 22, and stayed here for three nights.  On the 23rd, he strolled around Yamanobe no Michi at the foot of Mount Miwa.  On the 24th, he climbed up the peak of Mount Miwa.  After coming down from the peak, he attended the Gagaku music ritual held in the haiden.  Deeply impressed by the experience, Mishima wrote 晴明 (seimei=clear and bright) and 雲靉靆 (unaitai=cloudy and unclear) on the paper. 

Later Mishima wrote to Omiwa Shrine.

‘The sacred area of Omiwa Shrine was nothing but 晴明.  The days I spent being embraced by the god are an unforgettable experience in my life. 

I was honored to be allowed to climb up Mt. Miwa.  Looking down at the sacred stone at the peak, and looking up at the blue sky, I felt as if I was touching the base of the god’s seat. 

My everyday life in Tokyo is so distant from any god, I never thought I could ever come closer to Japan’s oldest god without feeling awe.  Not only awed, but I also felt invigorated and purified.  What a blessing from the god beyond my imagination!

Yamanobe no Michi, graceful dancing, and Gagaku music were all worth remembering.  Above all, I was deeply impressed by the priests’ relentless daily devotion day and night to the god.’

With the support of a generous donor, we erect the plaque of Mr. Mishima’s handwriting to cement the deep bond between him and Omiwa Shrine. 

Heisei 16th Year (2004) August “

Is this plaque an indication that I have to read Sea of Fertility? 


Miwa somen and Kakinoha sushi – photo by Author

My mother completed her monthly routine at Miwa-san.  Yuri-san and I had enough morning exercise.  Time for lunch! 

Morisho converted their front yard of the old farm house into an outdoor restaurant.  We ordered a lunch set, which contains the two local specialties: Somen and Kakinoha sushi.

Somen is very thin flour noodle.  Morisho serves somen in thin dashi broth.  Kakinoha sushi is wrapped around with a persimmon leaf.  Thanks to the antimicrobial effect of the persimmon, sushi lasts for a couple of days. 


After lunch, Yuri-san and I parted from my mother who went back to Osaka.  Off to Yamanobeno michi… I never imagined it would be that long of a hike.

Overlooking Yamato Sanzan from Miwa-san’s observation deck – photo by Author

Her Obituary

A long-time friend passed away

Yesterday I found out that a long-time friend of mine passed away almost a year ago. She was the very person that introduced me and my husband.


We two couples used to get together often, like going to plays, celebrating New Year’s and the Fourth of July.

But over time we drifted apart… They had three kids while we stayed childless. After they got divorced we tried to see them separately but it was not easy.

She was later diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. She may not have been even fifty at that time, quite a rare case. Once I made an appointment to get together with her, but when I visited her room in an assisted living facility, she was doing something with somebody else. She looked surprised to see me. Maybe she didn’t remember our appointment.

That was the last time I saw her. Now I regret, why I didn’t make another effort to see her…


I searched and found her obituary on the internet. She was four years younger. Her smile on the photo looked so lively.

Do I miss her? Very much. Do I feel sad? Not much. Her photo on the obituary has hit me with this truth. She went earlier, but I will follow her eventually. When exactly, I don’t know, but the day will certainly come. And I’m getting closer and closer to that moment each day.

After drifting apart for so long, now I feel so close to her. Her life and my life are not that different.

The Terracotta Walrus Faces Once Marvelled Now Look Like Ghosts

Can we no longer build things beautiful?

This unique 8-story building has been standing on the northwest corner of 3rd Avenue and Cherry Street in downtown Seattle for 118 years.

It was originally built as a home to the Arctic Club, a social institution formed by those men who returned to Seattle after “striking it rich” at Klondike Gold Rush.

It is unique because sculptured walrus heads are lined up on the third-floor exterior.

The tusks are long, the creature’s faces look real, and the intricate ornamental decorations are beautiful. “The building was one of the first in Seattle to use off-white terracotta panels over reinforced steel concrete frames as well as colored terracotta in submarine blue and ochre.” (The Arctic Club Hotel website)  When completed, people must have marveled the artistry of the building.    

Over a century later, what do we see?  Neighboring newer buildings are all much much taller, and have shining glass exterior walls, but none has such complex terracotta surfaces anymore. People focus on maximizing the profit of the buildings, asking how efficiently or how cost-effectively they can build it.  Not how beautiful it should be. 


Now these sculptured walrus faces look like ghosts – forgotten, abandoned by us human beings, in the name of progress. 

I wish not to call this progress…    

Power of Hope

We’ve seen it again in this disaster

On New Year’s Day, people’s celebratory mood was shattered in Japan.  Every time I watched the news on TV, the death toll was increasing.   NHK and other networks as well as YouTube videos showed horrible scenes. 

Watching these videos at home, all I could feel was helpfulness.  Nature doesn’t care if it’s New Year’s Day or not.  It doesn’t care if the city has a long history of impeccable Urushi lacquerware making.  It doesn’t care how many of the family members lost their lives.

No matter how far we humans have come to establish more convenient, comfortable lives over the millennium, one shake of the ground can destroy all that we have built.  We humans are powerless.


But one Facebook post by Takashi Wakamiya, who leads a group of Urushi lacquer craftspeople in Wajima, the city almost flattened by the earthquake, has given me power. 

However, even in these tough circumstances, I believe that artisans will try their best to respond to any work orders they receive.

At Hikoju Makie, we want to provide work to these artisans before they lose their spirit in the aftermath of the earthquake, hoping to connect them to a future of hope.

Even though somebody loses everything in a disaster such as an earthquake, as long as s/he has hope, s/he can restart, and rebuild, from nothing.  Hope in his/her heart has no physical element itself, but it is the source of power to create something. 

Japan has encountered numerous natural disasters in its long history.  Wakamiya-san’s message has reminded me of the power of hope, that my ancestors have always resorted after each disaster. 

Let me believe that I also have that power in me. 

Life and Sweeping the Floor

Is there any similarity between the two?

It’s an early Saturday morning. Raining.  Is it mist or cloud covering the sky?  My husband is still in bed.  I go downstairs, pick up a dry mop, and start sweeping the hardwood floor in the living room. 

Although the floor looks clean, after several trips back and forth between the walls, the mop collects cotton-like dust, strings of long hair, and other small particles (breadcrumb?).

It’s my weekly chore, for sure, but I kind of like this monotonous movement of my body. 

No matter how thoroughly I sweep today, the floor will be filled with the yucky-looking things again.  Is cleaning, like sweeping the floor, such a hopeless action with little value added to one’s life?  Then why do I like it?  Why do I refuse to hire somebody to do this chore for me?


“Life decreases or keeps constant its entropy by feeding on negative entropy.”  This is a concept introduced by Nobel-laureate physicist Erwin Schrödinger in his 1944 book “What is Life.”   

When I heard this sentence on a podcast, I found out why I like sweeping the floor.

Cleaning is an act of decreasing entropy.  It’s an analogy of life. By cleaning, I must have been experiencing what it means to live. 

Do I Live up to My Name?

In response to Dancing Elephants Press Prompt week 51/52

“What is your name?” “My name is Akemi.”

In Japanese, however, the question doesn’t end there.  Always there is a second question: “How is your name written?” 


The Japanese input method editor I use on my computer lists the following different combinations for a name “Akemi.”

明美, 昭美, 朱美, 暁美, 曙覧, 朱海, 明見, 曙美, 朱実, 明海, 曙海, 朱見…

The list is not exhausted, but is only of examples of how “Akemi” is commonly written.    

That’s because there are many Kanji characters with different meanings that are pronounced the same way.  Depending upon which Kanji character is used, the meaning of the name is different.

Let’s break down my name… It’s Ake + Mi.  The first part has one Kanji character, and the second has another. 

Ake 明 … This character means bright.

Mi 美… This character means beautiful.

Yes, my name literally means “bright and beautiful.”

Although my name was not that unusual, whenever I was asked to explain how my name is writen in Kanji characters.  I always had to answer with sarcasm.  Who would introduce oneself as “I’m bright and beautiful?”

Do I live up to my name?  I don’t know.  But at least I’m assured that my parents had some kind of expectation of me… 

How I Celebrate My Sustainability Day

In response to Dancing Elephants prompt 49 of 52

In the US, the first Monday in September is Labor Day.  Everybody enjoys the three-day weekend.  My husband flew to New York City to spend time with his college friends.

Alone at home, I picked two pairs of pants.  Both of them had a tear on the left knee.


In the past weeks, I have gone shopping, searching for new pairs.  I couldn’t find anything I liked.  Nothing was the right style, the right color, or the right texture.  Maybe I was hoping to find exactly the same kind as the torn pants, which were already out of fashion a long time ago. 


Alone at home, I picked two pairs of pants.  Both of them had a tear on the left knee.

I have no idea why only on the left knee, but the tear clearly indicated how much I liked to wear them. 

Left alone at home on the Labor Day weekend, I picked up the torn pants, thread, and needle, and started stitching.  Did I know how to do it?  Not quite, but there were more than enough YouTube videos instructing where to start, what to do, and how to do it. 

The only colors of the tread I had were black and white, so I chose black for my jeans and white for the other pair. 

For several hours, I simply stitched.  I zoomed in so close that I could see how each warp and weft were woven on top of each other.  I even counted how many threads of weft I should skip before poking the needle for the next stitch.

The outcome may not look appealing, but I don’t care.  With my labor of love, these pants have been resurrected.  Instead of being trashed, both pants will continue to give me protection and comfort for several more years.


From now on, when everybody else celebrates Labor Day, I will celebrate my own Sustainability Day!

How Salmon Navigate Back Home

A wonder of nature

Though I’ve been to Ballard Locks so many times, I have never seen as many large King Salmon swimming through the fish ladder as this summer!


Whenever we have guests from out of state, we take them to Ballard Locks.  Why?  There are a couple of reasons.  First, it’s only about a mile from our house.  We don’t have to worry much about the notorious Seattle traffic.  Second, it’s visually entertaining.  Many boats move up and down while being locked in the canal, after they sail in and before they sail out, between the seawater in Puget Sound and the fresh water in Lake Union. 

My husband, being an engineer, is eager to show the guests how the locks work to accommodate the different water levels between the seaside and the freshwater side.  The greatness of civil engineering; the ingenuity of human beings, is the highlight in his views. 

What awes me more, however, is salmon, this natural creature!


They were born in the hatchery upstream, miles away from here.  When they were tiny smolts, they swam from the lake, through this fish ladder, which was built alongside the locks,  to Puget Sound, and to the vast ocean. 

After living in the vast ocean, now with such a large body, they make a long journey back to where they were born.  They trace back to the same route that they took when young, with no GPS or map.  Once they reach their birthplace, the females lay eggs and the males fertilize them, and they all die shortly after that.

Salmon have been doing this for many millennia.  A century ago humans altered the journey routes with this concrete ladder.  A century from now, who knows if human beings will be still maintaining this “engineering wonder.”  But I’m sure that salmon will be continuing this journey.  The route might be altered again, but they will somehow figure out the way.


It’s kind of an irony, but in this man-made window, I see the majestic power of nature.  Go salmon!

My Two Moms Taught Me Most Important Lessons in Life

In response to Dancing Elephants Press prompt week 46 of 52 — Positive Impact

I have two Moms, one in Japan and one in the US. 

The one in Japan is my biological mother who gave me birth.  The one in the US is my host mother when I was an exchange student in the US for a year. 

Both Moms have taught me the most important lessons in life.


My mother in Japan taught me to think by myself, to be independent, not to rely on anybody else. 

I was in the first grade then.  One day I asked my mother one of the questions I was to answer in my homework.  She gave me the answer, and I wrote it down as she said. 

The next day at school, I found out the answer was wrong.  Furious and shameful, I swore to myself that I would never ask my mother to help me do my homework again.  Nor would I depend on anybody for any answer blindly. 

If I thought it through, came up with the answer, and turned out to be wrong, I could take full responsibility for the outcome.  But the answer was not mine, but somebody else’s.  I just couldn’t take that humility. 


My mother in the US taught me that there is more than one yardstick to evaluate myself, and I can define my own yardstick.

I was 16, just arrived in the US from Japan as an exchange student.  One day my host mother mentioned a girl as being smart, although she was not good at math. 

A student can be smart although not good at math? The concept was totally foreign to me.  In Japan, a student was not considered as “smart” unless s/he was good at math and all the other subjects. 

That’s when I learned that there is more than one yardstick to evaluate a person.  Or ultimately, I can create my own yardstick to evaluate myself. 


Two important lessons that positively, profoundly impacted my life, one from each Mom.